Is marriage a reality check of a lucid dream of love?

Marriage is an institution that brings together people with different identities and values leading to difference in opinion and way of living most of the times.
Often times when people decide to get married, it is either by societal pressure, their own emotional need or a decision completely swayed by love. Hence, more important factors such as upbringing, beliefs and values are either overlooked or not paid the kind of importance it deserves.

This leads to misconceptions, perceptions and realisations after marriage and couples often seem to be at the cross roads thinking whether the decision was wrong.

Here I would like to point out that no decision is right or wrong. Its just a decision. What is right or wrong is the execution of that decision.

A person is a by product of their values, beliefs and upbringing and hence when you like a person you are sub consciously aligned to those values.

So you may wonder why suddenly after marriage you start despising those values. Let me correct you here. You are not averse to those value; what you are facing is a general discomfort of co — living with a person with their own set of habits. So, what you are actually averse to are the habits which are temporary and can be changed by having an amicable discussion.

Yes, the love and the excitement wanes as is true for any new experience that you have in your life.
As it is said: There are no bad decisions. Its what you make of the consequences!